I don't know why it took me so long to read this. The tears I have now may have something to do with it. I feel it keenly, despite how different our relationships with our fathers were: there's something in a daughter father bond which is universal. I relate to wanting to converse about things only your dad would get or only relevant to him. I tried, and failed, to recreate those conversations with dearest husband.. I had to change my expectations as not to misdirect my frustration on an innocent (and highly confused) spouse.
I'm sorry I couldn't be more supportive during this time. 🫂 much love dearest friend 💚
Ahhh alhamdulillah. Really appreciate you reading this and of course your thoughts more. Thank you so much for also sharing your own feelings. And that's interesting how... just generally of course no one can replace anyone but also specifically how we sometimes look for our father in our other relationships. May Allah (swt) grant our fathers the highest rank in jannah ameen.
Oh! Now I am sad that the journey is over. Amazing our everyday discussions, what we put out and what we hold back, our meeting with each other is always fraught with tensions. How we wish to be perceived and how we are and how we perceive the One with whom we communicate. Communication is really nuanced, in ways that dianoa isn't but is. His absence is based upon a presence and in a way who else is the conversation with?
Thank you for sharing your journey with us. I love your writing and through it I am learning so much about you. Abu Ji would have been so proud of you.
JazakAllah khair for your comment. It's made me tear up quite a bit and I had to collect myself before writing anything in response. I'm honoured that you have taken so much away from my newsletters and hope they've benefitted you a lot ❤️
Thank you so much for reading and staying with me on my little journey! Yes it has been a revelation and it's true what you say about perceptions - of ourselves, of others, of communications, of reality... there's a nuance in it all! 'Absence is based upon a presence' ... love this!
I don't know why it took me so long to read this. The tears I have now may have something to do with it. I feel it keenly, despite how different our relationships with our fathers were: there's something in a daughter father bond which is universal. I relate to wanting to converse about things only your dad would get or only relevant to him. I tried, and failed, to recreate those conversations with dearest husband.. I had to change my expectations as not to misdirect my frustration on an innocent (and highly confused) spouse.
I'm sorry I couldn't be more supportive during this time. 🫂 much love dearest friend 💚
Ahhh alhamdulillah. Really appreciate you reading this and of course your thoughts more. Thank you so much for also sharing your own feelings. And that's interesting how... just generally of course no one can replace anyone but also specifically how we sometimes look for our father in our other relationships. May Allah (swt) grant our fathers the highest rank in jannah ameen.
Oh! Now I am sad that the journey is over. Amazing our everyday discussions, what we put out and what we hold back, our meeting with each other is always fraught with tensions. How we wish to be perceived and how we are and how we perceive the One with whom we communicate. Communication is really nuanced, in ways that dianoa isn't but is. His absence is based upon a presence and in a way who else is the conversation with?
Thank you for sharing your journey with us. I love your writing and through it I am learning so much about you. Abu Ji would have been so proud of you.
JazakAllah khair for your comment. It's made me tear up quite a bit and I had to collect myself before writing anything in response. I'm honoured that you have taken so much away from my newsletters and hope they've benefitted you a lot ❤️
Thank you so much for reading and staying with me on my little journey! Yes it has been a revelation and it's true what you say about perceptions - of ourselves, of others, of communications, of reality... there's a nuance in it all! 'Absence is based upon a presence' ... love this!